Action for Attraction, Getting Out And Attracting Desirable Women in the Real World.
Posted on May 10th, 2007 by Tago.
Before I start, let me say, if you don’t comment or
link or smile at this post I can and will find you.
So I am going to make the very flattering assumption
that you give advice for “altruistic” reasons. When I
say ”altruistic” I mean that regardless of all the
other perks that you may get from giving advice, you
actually feel that the advice will help the person that
you are giving it to. Instead of giving advice as a
form of nostalgia and/or to stroke your ego.
You know, some people make good money giving
advice, I bet most of them hope that the advice
will help, but if it doesn’t there is still money in
their pocket. Maybe they are satisfied with that.
However most people don’t give advice with any hope or
expectation of getting any tangible reward, fair
enough. I will assume that is where you are at.
So there you are with the solution to everyone else’s
problems, (we all know we don’t have the solutions to
our own problems).
So what exactly does a person need to do to change?
So that’s what a person in _themselves_ needs to
change. But, what do you need to change someone else?
In fact you need two additional conditions first to
persuade anyone else on a deep core level.
Now, who has a good idea how we may convince
someone that we know them better then they know
themselves? It is completely possible that we do,
ask any parent. However, the problem is not in knowing
the solution, but in knowing how to convey it.
See giving advice is not about knowing how to solve
someone’s problems, it is about installing the
”why’s” of their problems. Why, why
must they change? Not why should they
change, but why must they change, if you can’t
honestly answer that question, you really shouldn’t be
giving advice. If you really think you can answer that
question, you might better ask again.
At the end of the day, good advice is asked for at
the unconscious level or as they say ”between the
lines” so make sure to give your, ”I understands, I
know, I see’s” with the real advice you want to convey
”under the radar” on the unconscious,
emotional level. Then and only then are you
really giving worthwhile advice.
Posted on May 4th, 2007 by Tago.
Categories: The Basics.
Here is the absolute BASICS of reading eyes, you
MUST know this to be successful with women.
Let us say that you make eye contact with a women you
see as you are walking down the street, in a store or
You look at her, she looks away. Now do you know how to
read her ”look away?”
If she smiles, that is clearly an approach invitation,
so go up and chat her up.
If her eye look straight over and away (that is they
move parallel to the ground), this is NOT an approach
invitation, this is a show of disinterest.
If her eyes move DOWN and then to the away, this IS an
approach invitation, go up and chat her up.
Posted on May 3rd, 2007 by Tago.
First kisses are a mystery to many, in fact they where
once my BIGGEST sticking point.
It wasn’t uncommon for me to be carrying on a
completely engaging and provocative conversation with a
amazingly attractive women while thinking ”jeeze, what
sweep, radiant lips she has.” I knew what I wanted,
but i didn’t know how i was going to get it.
I would go home without a kiss, and many times the
women would sense this indecision in me and not respond
well to my next phone call. I was basically cheating my
self out a perfectly good kisses and connections with
Now I have completely turned that around because I have
figured out how to ”test the water” before jumping
in. Much less rejection, happy lips all around.
So let us say that I am talking to a beautifully women
and I am ready to kiss and now I need to know if
she is ready to kiss.
First thing I will do is get her to put her hand in
”touching distance” of mine. For some odd reason it
seems to work better if it is her left hand
(don’t ask me why). You can basically do this once you
have gained rapport by putting your hand out and she
will almost certainly mirror it (if she doesn’t, change
the subject to a more ”interesting(TM)” topic,
something with body sensations related to the face has
worked for me, i.e. the sun and wind on your face as
you slide down the moutain on your mountain bike, etc.
Once I have her hand in touching distance, I touch it.
Well duh. I softly place my three middle fingers on the
back of her palm, just before the wrist where the
sweet, soft micro-hairs of her fore-wrist are.
Then I will look into her eye’s and say something like,
”your hair looks so velvety smooth” and then I will
lean in, while looking at my finger tips (she will look
at them also) and touch the very ends of her hair
towards the back of her neck. When my hand goes out of
reach of her line of sight, I wait (like a half second)
to then make direct eye contact. When she smiles, I
stroke her hair for just a tiny bit more.
If she is comfortable with that, I make eye contact,
glance at each eye and then the lips in a sort of
triangle, if she is smiling or looks hypnotized SHE IS
READY FOR A KISS! So go for it.
When I follow this very natural, respectful and
effective pattern, I have given her subconscious mind
the proper information to process to know that I want
to a kiss. I am communicating directly to her
unconscious attraction process. Its subtle, its
effective, women will tell their friends about this
first kiss with you.